Do we need these suggestions every time?

"Looks like you've put on more weight than the last time I saw you. Why don't you try some pilates? Or yoga?"

"Babe, you are so short! I heard there's a swimming class starting in school. Why don't you join it?"

Ever heard yourself advising your fat or short friends along similar lines? No, you wouldn't call them 'fat', you'd call them 'healthy'; you wouldn't call them 'short'; you'd call them 'petite'.

You are offended because I called them fat or short. After all, you're their well-wisher. They probably nodded their heads with a wry smile & thanked you for your suggestion. But, does it ever occur to you that they might be offended by your advice? That they're so fed up of hearing different advices from every well-wisher that your advice is nothing but a constant reminder of their imperfection to them? That their imperfections bother them so much that they must've already tried all those suggestions with no results only to give up hope? That perhaps their imperfections have been passed on to them genetically & there is nothing they can do to change the way they are? That your well-meaning suggestions & advices may hurt them more than their imperfections? That you could just shut your mouth for once & offer your advice when asked for?

Perhaps, they don't want you to wish them to be any different. Does it ever occur to you that you could just love them for what they are?